I know my problem, I'am just ugly

I know my problem, I'am just ugly

But whats yours? 

Are you frightened of making a commitment or just frightened of making a commitment on something that may not last....?

......or are you just plain fussy.. ........What'll it be? 

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Sorry, just curious......

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ah your not ugly your lovely , mine im just plain scared .x

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I'v just not found the one for me.

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well you asked x

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I don't know what my problem is but just I've blocked about the 6th pushy 20something year old.

I do wonder where the **** some peoples heads are at!!!! 

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Indeed. !!

That I did MClol. x

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yes you did .

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I don't have a problem

It's everyone else who has a problem with me

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I wonder if the possible difficulty of pulling out, puts people off new relationships too.  Bound to be that tugging of heart strings for someone, if it doesnt work out.

IMO nothing worse than than having to tell someone your no longer sure or have that you've changed your mind.  

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Surely everyone likes a different look, so what one person might not like the look of, someone else will fancy the pants off of them!

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i realy dont know ,the last guy i had a few dates with ,bottled out and said by tex the spark had gone ,do i want to work on it , i didnt say yes lets say .

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I think there's a lot in what you say Marv, we all know what it's like to be rejected and you don't want to inadvertantely want to make someone else feel the same.

Things change, circumstances, feelings........ what was good for today may not be good for tomorrow. Maybe you think you're going to try something to see if your view would change, as people say 'try anything once' but it turns out you were right in the first place........it wasn't really what you wanted.

So I think the pain, embarrasment, whatever, of ending something that isn't right for you is also a big concern.

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I am just scared thats it Me in a nut shell, I think once you have been abused then its hard trying to work out what you feel, they say you get over it but where the heart may beat faster the brain says, hold on check it out, I know what I would like its just if it likes me, Marv your nice, someone will be very lucky I hope some comes my way.

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Am just plain old fussy, plus I couldn't be bothered with a nagging woman. 

By the way am only hav'n a laugh.

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Guess im scared of falling for someone in case i find out they were telling me load of lies as happened in past,

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Guess im scared of falling for someone in case i find out they were telling me load of lies as happened in past,

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ha so scared i posted twice

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Well New York was so good that they named it twice!

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Like Yo Yos and Cous cous ?

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Obviously Tic-Tacs didn't quite make the grade hehe

I accepted a while back that due to my unique personality and dashing good looks, it will be a while before I can find a woman who can handle me. Don't mean that in a bigheaded arrogant way, just that (as many men I'm sure will attest to) some people find a goodlooking partner as much of a worry as a turn-on.

Just goes to show guys, women have the same foibles and insecurities as men do. Just more so :P *waits in expectation of vitriol from women on this site*

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My problem is i need to get out more, im single with lots to give just got to get out there and grab it. p. s any takers? lol

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Im sure you will have plenty of takers Nico!!!!!

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Yes, and with all these divorces (apparently 30-40% of all marraiges) there should be roughly equal numbers of eligible single women to single men out there somewhere, but where the friggin well are they all....thats what I'd like to know. They must be looking for me, erm....... someone too.  I bet one passes my door every day and I just don't know it. 

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I heard some new stats the other day, not sure how it applies to the UK or rest of the world but in the USA more marriages are taking place that originated from internet dating than any other source for the first time ever. So my guess would be they are scattered throughout the dating sites...

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Thats certainly an interesting  statistic jk, but statistics abound and a recent one I heard concerning uk date sites suggested that the average life span for a liason/relationship initiated on-line here was just 7 weeks..........

...........7 friggin weeks!   -   Its enough to make you weep!!! 

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If that was'nt enough another I statistic I saw suggested male membership of such sites out number femaleship by over 5 to 1.  That one definately makes you wanna weep!  

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...............but I won't 

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Haha that's the spirit marvin, men shouldn't cry in public...

I think the statistic actually works in the favour of guys like you and I (I'm assuming that you aren't a member of the "I'm-so-nice-I'l-make-you-sick" brigade or the "im-an-arrogant-tosser" club lol), because when a woman has had god-knows how many msgs from idiots that all say the same thing, a msg from a genuine man who is prepared to be a bit original & doesn't kiss their ass is like a breath of fresh air.

What am I saying, I'm sure there's got to be a woman or two around who still buys into the belief that men should be sensitive, caring and kiss her ass to gain acceptance... don't stop on my account guys :D

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I don't suppose you can really change what attracts a women to a man, its all in their genes,  but in my book charm does'nt really count for much. Charm only need last a day, but its what comes after that really  counts. i.e. Are they sincere in their charms for you especially?

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Define "charm" though... most guys would define charm as I said above, doing whatever they can to gain "browny points" or acceptance... whereas I would define it another way.

I've already said too much! Bad enough with the 5-1 ratio, no need to give them a metaphorical flashlight so they stop stumbling around in the metaphorical darkness hehe

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Poor Marvin .......... why are you so far away  ...

I hate rejection too ....... and had a bad marriage .... STUPID policeman !!!!!!!.........BUT, i wont let you men get to me   !!!!!!!!!!!!!

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oh im a single mum and busy, need to get out more ithink, i wont lie i get lots of offers, but no1 that i have just clicked with, just not found the right 1 so to speake. and yes im scared too, if im honest. i had really bad marriage,.. really bad.. but heay im ere so thats a start... and the past is the past.time to move on i think.

                                               good luck every1

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Hi mia# Have'nt actually been rejected exactly, I just have'nt found the right one.

Plus I would'nt count rejection as necessarily bad anyway.

Peeps can have all sorts of reasons for rejecting someone, and as you know  attractive people are'nt necessarily made for one another, there are a lot of other things that need to be right also before you say you've got a match made in heaven. 

You think of all the celebs out there divorcing and separating you can see, success of the initial attraction is only the start, it does'nt necessarily mean you'll still get on once you start living together, personality wise you might be totally incompatible.

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just to say im attending a wedding of a cousin who met on a dating line ,and i have a friend whos relationship up to now is 2 yrs and they have put a deposit on a wedding venue for 2yrs time ,so lets say for some it works ,

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Yep, definately fingers crossed and good luck for all who get that far MB, that bit is difficult enough for some.

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i.e. the actual getting there.

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yes i agree . you never know though we might get lucky ,lol

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your not ugly! whats for you wont go by you. for me what attracts me to a guy is personality every time. like someone who can make me laugh! my problem is getting out to meet people. divorced mum with 2 kids still home.

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yes its harder when your a single parent ,my   youngest   daughter is 14  now and she now having more of a social life than me ,my free time has been took up with  the occational night out at the cinema with some of my femail friends ,yep deffinatly need to get out more .

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marvin you have a good heart m8t, we can all see that. dont be so hard on your self.. chin up marv and good luck, just be patient....

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and yes malibu it is harder wen you are a single parent.. i was married for 14yrs and have had to start life again.. wen being the main carer you have responsabilities... and though i do have time for that special person when and if ever i find him, he will have to understand that i have responsabilities.....

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well it if difficult,finding some one whom does not want to take all your time up.like i said i have children.

came out of a very bad domestic marriage. so im wary now..i have been told tooooooooooo many times that i am over cautious..but i dont think i am..im just being sensible. i dont like to rush into things.. whats the rush ive been single this long so im in no hurry... im strolling i suppose. but i do have a lot of love for the right man.

but its finding the right man........ha ha ha. i want everything rolled into one..oh maybe im just too picky.

                                                     good luck my friends

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Well what can I say the treads all all saying the same thing, me included, I  have been on my own 15 years bringing up my son who is now 21 and still at home, where as I should now be enjoying life I find it hard with him at home, I never brought uncles home if you get what i mean so I am finding it hard to invite anyone homw, ha thats if any one would fancy an old crock like me in the first place, I am thinking of just giving up totally. Have a good day folks

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dont give up i have never brought men home either, as im old fashioned that way... but heay our lives cant stand still, we deserve happiness too, there is always a way round these situations..............

well i hope there is..lol....

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lol u know u are not ?

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Lol Haich# Must say that is a surprise. 15 years is a long time, but I guess you just have'nt met anyone you liked enough to want settle down with. 

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hey MARVIN; WHO SAID YOU WERE UGLY ; I;M NOT GAY BYE THE WAY; I DON;T THINK YOUR UGLY BYE ANY MEAN,S; IT;S NOT WHAT,S ON THE OUTSIDE BUT IN YOUR HEART; ; LOOK,S ARE ONLY SKIN DEEP; YOU CAN BE THE NICEST LOOKING PERSON AROUND; AND STILL BE A BAD EGG; SO I HOPE YOU FIND SOMEBODY  BIG MAN ; I MYSELF AM VERY LONLEY AND I PUT MYSELF DOWN ; I JUST NEED TO GET A BIT MORE CONFI AND MOVE ON; BUT AT MY AGE IT,S NOT THAT EASY; YOU;VE STILL GOT TIME ON YOUR SIDE SO MAKE THE BEST OFF IT ; AND GOOD LUCK