Faceless People

Faceless People

Hi just wondered what everyones views are on faceless people the profiles with no photo? I will not speak to any bloke who is faceless and says I will send one if you give me your MSN or Yahoo what ever he is into as if he has one there then he can put one on his profile, it works both ways men and women. They see your photo and surley no one is that bad, plus its creepy the scammers spring to mind again and of course the pervs who are cheating, what do you think everyone, have a good day at least its not raining now lol

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Haich, I fully agree I think the site should make it compulsory for pics to be put on profiles, I get numerous messages some with tons of gifts saying please can they take me out....How the hell are we suppose to get remotely interested with a blank screen? and yes alot of these are scammers or worse, married men not wanting to advertise their identity, So come on guys if you want romance then you have to let us see you!!

xx

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NO PIC, NO CONTACT! Seems unfair having my mug shot on here, when other people can browse without having to truly identify themselves. Could be anyone on other end, looks bit dodgy to me.

So yes do agree, pic should be compulsory.

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Interesting.

The original plan was to only allow profiles to be active if they have a photo, but this was leading to people uploading fake pictures or just downright silly ones.  We can stopt the silly ones, but can't tell if somebody uploads a picture of their friend instead of themselves.  A difficult one.

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i agree with everyone and have said so on some forums ,,i still have people contact me without a pic on P L F  as well as on here and being nieve at one time i never even thought they might be married or worse ,it is a bit  off putting  ans bit creepy .

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Photoless members - This topic seems to crop up all the time and these days it is not difficult to understand why.

Many people, and perhaps more so people our age seem to have a worringly limited understanding of how  computers and Internet security work, and the more we hear in the media, of people unwittingly becoming the victims of internet fraud and criminals who have  specialised knowledge of circumventing PC security  and acquiring from other people information they should not have then it becomes scary.

I will not say there are not some perfectly legitimate reasons why some people prefer to remain faceless on line, but to be honest  I think I would  struggle if I was asked to give examples.

However, as many people know, some people choose to remain faceless because they have something to hide, so I don't  think you can blame people for being cautious - afterall they could be anyone.

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Thanks all, I agree with you all and will not speak to anyone without a photo, not even silly ones as there the ones to be more afriad of, had one guy try to say he was Billy Fury, remember him ha ha, I dont think any one should be on any site that hasnt a bonifide Pic, there must be a way to make sure they are who they say they are both sexes as I know some women troll the net looking for vunerable men, not sure how to go about it but someone will make a fortune coming up with the right idea, I know I am who I say I am, what you see is what you get and most you you are the same you can tell, again takes a few to spoil it for the rest

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Billy Fury???..........crikey, seeing as he's been dead for 25 years, I hate to think what he looks like!!

Even if someone doesn't fit into any of the afore mentioned categories, I can't honestly believe that someone who doesn't post a pic is really serious about dating.

If they go out to a bar or club in the hope of meeting someone, would they go out with a bag on their head and expect to attract someone?..........I won't invest my time in getting to know a guy unless that initial attraction is there.

As for being able to use someone elses pics, I insist on seeing a few, and if I were to turn up for a date and they weren't that person I'd just leave.

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i just dont trust if thy dont have a picture,no pic no reply,unless i know for genuine that there is a good reason..thy could be high profile people and dont want their proffesional work partners to know thy are online dating or just married.....but i do have my fears of it could be worst....

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Why are you all picking on me?

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well if the shoe fits ,lol

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Not just you but ALL faceless people.....If you want to be apart of the community spirit here then you must at least have the guts to show your face.....after all we dont know who or what you are, why should we all give you the time of day??? We are all on here hopefully for the same reason of finding friendship and love, how do you expect to make friends behind a screen? This is the friendliest site ive been on and everyone mixes with everyone on, there is a wonderful atmosphere between us all,So unless you have something to hide??? (in which case you shouldnt be on here) then reveal yourself!!

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Gosh what a cynical bunch, I have known and met some very nice people who didn't put up photo's for legitimate reasons.

The job thery're in seems to be favourite,particularly teachers and lecturers. Their view being, if the kids found out they would make there life a misery. I'd have to agree with them, remeber all the fuss a little while ago about a female teacher who had made a slightly saucy ad for tyres, lots of years prior to her teaching days................the kids got hold of it and she ended up sacked.

I also know a guy who had his photo lifted from an internet dating site, which was then subsequently used on very disturbing sites, he almost lost his job over that.......he could prove it was the case and he shared the lawyers/police information etc where he had prosecuted the guys who had done it. He then faced the prejudice from people on internet dating sites, that he had something to hide becaise he didn't have a photo!

I've also put up a profiles with no pictures because I got sick of receiving emails that said, 'hey babe, nice pic, u luk cute'.........if I was interested in illiterate bumpkins who made their romantic decisions purely on what people looked like, I wouldn't have bothered taking the trouble to write a profile.

We all know of scammers who upload freely available photos of models............so, no photo doesn't necessarily mean there's dirty deeds at work, in the same way as a photo doesn't always reflect what's really going on.

Surely this just calls for a bit of common sense to be applied and treat every situation on it's own merits.........I don't like to be prejudged, so I think the least I can do is afford the same courtesy to other people.

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Well done to "irresponsible", nice to see you have put a pic on here. And may i say nice pic too...

As for Marx you obviously have not been subjected to sexual inuendos from faceless men who think its great to sit on the net perving over us women as they have nothing better to do. Yes I agree that the odd one maybe a fake but thats in the minority, and to be honest if people are in precarious jobs then dating sites arent really for them anyway. I totally refuse to entertain any male with no picture and from what I see Im not the only one.

You are more likely to attract the opposite sex with a picture than a blank screen, how many of us have gone oooo he's nice and then proceeded to send a message? on the other hand how many of us bypass the blank pictures? speaks for itself!!

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Yes Marx I agree with some things that you say and I am not normally judgemental and I agree with Jenny62 as well, its a wide topic and can go round in circles sometimes, I do not speak to faceless men and never will, if I am brave enough to show my mug they should be too, there are loads of teachers and professional people on facebook with photos , I know a few. If they are seeking friendship etc why not put a photo on the site they choose, why hide unless they have something to hide, sorry I know trust goes a long way but come on would you really get into conversation with someone who is faceless creepy

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Oh I've had plenty of sexual innuendo from both faceless men and men who are happy to show a picture JENNY62.........that behaviour doesn't seem to be mutaully exclusive.

To each his own and we all have to make our own decisions.

But my experience hasn't been wholly negative, in fact a long term boyfriend of mine was 'faceless'. The first date I had from an internet dating site was 'faceless' and we're still firm friends.

So I'm just a bit more comfortable with giving people the benefit of the doubt, after all how easy is it to just delete a message and block the sender of you don't like what they're saying.

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Your right I guess me being over cautious, why dont they have spell check on here as I know that was wrong,anyway I still wont see or date anyone faceless so there we go, have a great evening everyone

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im just saying use your instincts as we all have them...its not only the faceless people who are like that..some with pictures can be worse,ive had a few remarks i didnt agree with.but i reperted it and 1 particular person is now no longer on the site.and james dealt with it quickly.. so dont put up with it ladies..complain if you have any messages you dont like or agree with... but regarding the faceless people,use your instincts...

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tegarding the issue of faceless people...they all have there reasons not to put a picture up..i have friends on this site who do not have pictures up.and i know genuinely why..some fear for their jobs,others fear that stolen identity my happen..others are genuinely embarrassed that thy are on the site and dont want relatives or friends to know.... lets not be to judgemental in this area please....... but as i have advised use your instincts.. we all have them..if you have any trouble from people with or with out pictures report them instantly...

                                               have a heart and use judgement carefully..........xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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ppl without pic allow you to get you to know the person for who they are without getting biased with looks, but at the same time you imagine them to look one way, and they generally don't look that way

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you see thats the problem ,were not all photogenic myself included and i hate having my pic took  but if your chatting to some one its nice to get some idea what they look like as well as who they are .

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I hate my photo being taken as well, and I guess yes there are some nice people on here without a photo but when I speak with someone you imagine what they are like and 9 times out of 10 if you meet they are totally wrong, at least with a photo you have an idea as long if its their photo ofcourse, lol and so it goes round

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For purely chat and conversation purposes I see no problem with a faceless profile, and as has already been said you can't rely on a photo anyway because there are bound to be those that are not genuine.

If I chose to use for example a photo of Brad Pitt or Denzil Washington instead of my own it seems very curious that there are no real measures in place to prevent it, bearing in mind I could be virtually anybody or all sorts of persuasions and intent.....

So I think definitely an area for concern. Sadly this is just the way it is, so all the without photos must pay the price for their anonymity, which in this case seems to be suspicion, justified or not.

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Thanks Marvin1962 I agree,so come folks men and women without a photo who read this thread, get a grip get a photo share with us. Have a great weekend

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i think it is there choise if they do or do not put pic up.... they have there own genuine reasons not too.

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Yep, I agree with you Sian............their choice to photo or not to photo,  if (for whatever reason) someone is uncomfortable responding to a faceless profile that's their choice too............

I do struggle with the idea of forcing someone to display a pic though, I think a lot of good people would be put off by that and that means less of an opportunity for those of us who are OK with chatting to someone a little mysterious  

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yes i agree.... and i like mysterious..................... its a challenge.......lol..........

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Life is a challenge but i still wouldn,t speak to someone who is faceless but your entitiled to your veiw and I respect that

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I havent put my pic on here deliberatley so that if i make a friend on here it would be because they like the person i am and not just what i look like. After all, you can always send a photo via e-mail

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There is one more reason some people don't put pics up, which simone kinda touched upon... some women possess physical beauty that causes over-sexed guys to harass them, this is what it amounts to although it isn't intentional... I have personally spoke to women on other sites who have sent their pic through at a later date, and shocked me with how attractive they are. So a lot of women use it as a sort of "filter" whether to see if people are interested in their personality like simone, or just to cut down their inbox to a reasonable size!

As a rule I don't usually contact people with no photo or respond, especially if they just send a "wink" or equivalent non-msg. But rules are made to be broken... the best relationship I ever had was with an absolutely gorgeous woman with no pic, who sent me a wink lol I had a "feeling" so responded with a cheeky msg, the rest was history. Just goes to show there are usually two sides to every story. ALthough I would say as a rule of thumb, most ppl with no photos have something to hide. Not everyone, but most...

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i have taken my pic off a few times then put it back up.. its nice to know people like you for who you are and not actually what you look like, or oooooooooooo you got big boobs, cuz at the end ot the day im just me, a loving caring down to earth person with a heart of gold..

 so you see people, yes it is your choise wiether or not to talk to faceless people, but dont be judgemental.. as ive said b4 there are many many genuine reasons as why thy do not wish to have a picture up in the first place....  its ok to be cautious..with out judgement.... love to you all..............xxxxxxxxxxxx             

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Yes it would definately be nice to see to see everyones faces but this site, as do many  others, allows its members the option of adding photos or not adding photos. Personally I can only see the need for photos when looking for dates, obviously people want to see what you look like.

For the discussion pages however the need is far less important, because basically all we really  to know is what people have to say. As for dating and photos, it should be no surprise to anyone, to discover you don't get very far without one but they should still be allowed that option if the site allows it.

Concerns about deception and being misled are a major concerns these days, basically because there is a lot of it about and this applies on-line as well as everywhere else.

The unfortunate consequence, sad as it may be, is that non-photos must pay a price for anonymity which as you can see is caution and mistrust from most other members they might hope contact.

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yes marvin i do agree with you on that point..i certainly would not go on a date with some1 who i didnt know wat thy looked like..... and i believe that goes for a lot of other members 2... but to talk to in the chat rooms is fine....

      good point marvin..xx

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but as ive said earlier, they have there own reasons for not putting their pics on, and in time thy may chanche their minds and put a pic up..i got 2 people who didnt have pics up in the chat room to put pics up.you see sometimes its just a confidence thing too.

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i think its good to have a picture up u need to know who u are talking to u can still get to know them with a pic only thing i dont like about having my pic up is i get men alot older than me just sending msgs with hot or cute no how are you and it makes me wonder if they just saw my age with no pic wud they still contact me i dont know x

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I like to know what the person I am corresponding with looks like. It's only fair since they know what I look like. Otherwise, I feel somewhat disadvantaged. Perhaps it is simply that some people don't have a digital camera or all the necessary computer accessories that most of you will take for granted. They may be doing it from a internet cafe or library and some of these places don't allow you to upload things in case of viruses, nudity etc.

Shyness and lack of self-esteem or confidence may also play a part. I think on balance it is fine as long as after some initial communication, they have a pic to offer. The other possibility is they are looking for some sort of extra-marital fling and want to keep it discreet.

Who knows. Anyway, I have posted a few. The original profile I set up I loaded loads of holiday pics of me then I screwed up the account or forgot the password. Actually, I think there was an error in the email I registered to it and I was never gonna get the messages about any interest so I created another profile. I wrote to support at the time but got no reply - they probably wrote to the address I originally specified which I won't get.

FF

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It is also worth mentioning that I have read that employers have been known to look for information on individuals on websites such as BEBO, Facebook etc and rejected those who had pictures of drunken revelry posted. Now the flaw in the story is that you usually have to be invited to be a friend by the person in order to view their pics/profile but stories like that may put people off posting pics. Solution: Just post decent sensible ones.

I also feel a sense of embarassment that friends and family may see that I have resorted to this medium. I also dread a major wind up by a friend pretending to be a women interested in me.

So for those reasons, I can understand people minimising their exposure to these risks of potential embarassment.

Cheers,

FF

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yes many people dont put pics up for all sorts of genuine reasons, were all entitled to our opinions, but i believe they are also entitled to their owd induvidual choise too.just to be cautious and carefull is all i can say.trust your instincts we all have them.i have spoken to lots of very nice people who have no pictures up.

and will not be judgemental...... but will always be cautious...

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Not keen on replying to messages with no photos, just me - I prefer to see who I'm 'talking' to.

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I learned my lesson on a different site, I was too shy to post a photo but I was contacted by a guy and we got on really well by e-mail.  Chatted for a while then I sent him a pic and - you guessed it - never heard from him again!   So, looks can be a deal breaker for some people.  That persuaded me to just go ahead a post some photos - tell hell with anyone who doesn't like how I look 

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beauty is skin deep sara,i love personality,humour and a good heart............. but thats just me i kind of accept people for who thy are.... suppose i look beneath the skin so to speake.....i have been out wi drop dead gorgeous guys..............  didnt last long as thy were real ungly on the inside............................

and that can go both ways for women as well as men..................

just be your self sarah,dont change for any1 hun..

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just noticed that sum1 elde has started a thread the same as thia agin..so tthought it would be good for grumpy old woman to read this thread .. xxx